After two and a half years of uncertainty, Teri Knight has brought
her children home. Today Teri, her family, relatives, classmates and
friends of Sarah and Phillip gathered together to say goodbye.
People glibly use the word "closure" to people who've had a loved
one murdered. Although they may be well meaning, a perception
problem exists. For those families who are trying to cope with the
loss of a loved one, usually under vicious circumstances, that word,
closure, may be viewed as insensitive, even offensive.
We've all read or heard quotes from families of victims who say
"there is no closure." Closure doesn't exist for them.
Having a loved one ripped from existence, from life, is a brutal
mind numbing experience. Finding their remains. Achieving
justice, however they might personally define it. Those are
events they set as goal posts in order to get through the days,
weeks, months, and more often, years. Even if those goal posts
have been realized, there still is no sense of "closure."
At some point in time, moving onward and setting different
goal posts in their lives occurs. But closure never comes.
Teri Knight at her children's funeral stated "People often
say that we can now find closure; well, there really isn't
closure when you are dealing with the senseless murder
of your children," "Finding their bodies and bringing
them home has allowed us to have a more acceptable
ending to this part of the journey." "I had always said
that they needed to be found and not left on the side
of a road." "They are home and now our family can
start the next chapter -- living our lives, moving
forward and bringing along all that Sarah and Philip
meant to us."